Starting to get frustrated

No, TT has it set in configuration.h for you. Once I was able to successfully build his firmware (using v0.5.2 of tmcstepper was key) no other changes to firmware were needed.

Guys do I need to put red jumpers on if I am using Tmc 5160

and do I also need to take the jumpers off underneath the Tmc 5160 drivers ?

No, you don’t need to.

no to which jumpers

The wires on your X-axis are in the socket in a different order than your Y axis. Is this a problem?